As I was posting a client video testimonial online yesterday, I was feeling so much gratitude at how much I love what I do and how truly transformational a VIP Day really is.

In fact it made me realise that, whether I work with a client for 1 life-changing day or within a 3-6 month programme that includes several of these days, it IS the VIP Day Intensives that I myself get the biggest buzz from too!

BUT, this time last year I had no idea what a VIP Day WAS – I had never even heard of the concept…

So of course it struck me that as I post on Facebook, tweet on Twitter and blog on my own website about this mystical phenomena, “The VIP Day”, there are probably a lot of you out there who,  like me last year, are wondering what on earth I am talking about!

A year ago, I was a coach working using the basic coaching model, charging by the hour and having moderate success but I knew I was missing something, that I could be more effective AND be more joyful in my work.

I began to network much more widely – I went to personal development  and coaching events, I had a LOT of fun on Facebook, sharing ideas and dreams with other heart-centred coaches, I developed a Twitter “strategy” to connect with more people and opened my heart and mind to as many new ideas as possible.

At one particular event I listened to speakers who offered really special bespoke support to people in business – one-to-one intensive periods of time that focused on you, the client, and opened doors to exciting new ways of doing business, reaching and helping more people, making money and getting complete fulfilment from what you do – THE VIP DAY!

After taking this in, and being drawn to one particular mentor, I invested my hard-earned cash (including some that I had not yet earned…..!) and had my first gorgeous VIP experience!

SO, WHAT IS A VIP DAY?!

Firstly, a VIP Day is so-called because as a VIP client you automatically elevate yourself to being someone who MEANS BUSINESS, who is willing to invest in him/herself – now that deserves the VIP treatment!

As a solo business owner especially, moving out of the struggle of doing everything for yourself and by yourself and into a place of immense growth and support, makes you a very special person – a Very Important Person! Let me be clear – this means you have stepped into knowing that valuing YOURSELF is KEY to your success. After all, as a heart-centred entrepreneur, you ARE your business.

And so, having recognised and acted upon your own high value, THAT is exactly how you are treated. AND, you will find that it is not only your mentor who sees and acts upon the value you are now presenting – it is like flipping a switch and suddenly others start to see you for your true high-value too!

What exactly do you GET in a VIP Day?

The benefits of a VIP Day Intensive are vast and various, and depend on the coach or mentor, such as:

• Entirely bespoke support – so that you are seen for the unique person AND business proposition that you really are
• Peace of mind – that frees you instantly from the stress of depending only on yourself
• Loving support – being a VIP client is fun and hugely illuminating
• Expert business planning advice – your mentor will know how to advise you on your unique business plan
• Gaining clarity on what you really want and showing you HOW to get it
• Creative ideas for product, marketing and promotion of you as your own brand
• Partnership with a professional who cares as much about your success as you do
• FEELING fabulous – do not underestimate the benefit to you and your business of being cared for on a personal level, being given an amazing lunch even, being in beautiful inspiring surroundings and being energised by your own personal mentor
• Learning how to attain the mind-set that works for YOU, so that you really can succeed in what you choose to do
• Feeling once and for all the self-belief you need so that you can take aligned and joyful actions after your VIP Day

SO, to the important question (VIQ – Very Important Question!)

HOW do you choose the right mentor and the right VIP Day package for you?

Most of my clients are drawn to work with me through their own instinct and intuition. They will have listened to one of my teleseminars, heard me speak, met me at an event or even just engaged with me on social media.

There is so much value in “feeling” your way into the right mentor relationship by trusting how you react when you hear or speak to a possible mentor. If you feel excited for example, you know you are onto something!

But, what questions can you ask to make sure you can trust those feelings?

Firstly, do not be distracted by minor details such as where the mentor is located or the investment they require. If that sounds unusual, it is! But, the business of transforming your life is not ordinary, it is EXTRAordinary.

If the right mentor for you lives across the country (or even across the globe!) or if working with him/her requires an investment that challenges your view on how much money you think you can afford, MAKING this happen for you means you have started to live your life from true desire, without letting obstacles block you from your deepest and highest good.

So, don’t be fooled by the fears that come up and say “this is not possible” – if you really want it, it is always possible.

Ask yourself instead:

• Where do I want to BE in 6 months / 1 year and who do I think can help me get there?
• Does the work that he/she does really resonate with me?
• Does this mentor really understand my journey?

It is great to have a mentor who understands some of the challenges you have faced and will face, because he/she has personal experience

• What ‘specialities’ does he/she offer?

For example, within my holistic mentoring work with Women Pioneers in Business, I am specifically known for: getting you quickly unstuck, developing your services into a juicy package, high-end programme development and how to be you in your business.

Where are you in your business? What is working and what isn’t? What exactly do you need, as far as you know, right now?

Choose a mentor whose specialties you feel reflects these specific current needs

• What is your most exciting desire for your business? Who could really “get” this, on an emotional as well as a practical level, and mentor you to achieving it?

I’ll leave you with one of my most important realisations when I was dragging my own heels around investing in high-level support:

‘Your business is your vehicle to get your purpose out into the world.’

I used to hate the word business! (7 years working in the City did that to me!)

If you are, or want to be, getting YOUR life purpose out into the world via your business, you, and those you are here to help, need you to be living at the height of your potential and soon!

I have not yet found a more joyful way of transforming, and being transformed, than the “VIP Day”.

With love,

Victoria

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Are you secretly thinking “Well, it’s too late now isn’t it to set those shiny New Year’s Resolutions? I may as well not bother”

Yes, you can’t just turn back the clock and start 2012 again!

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I also hear now the painful illusion behind these words – the self-sabotage blocking your path to making some money out of what you love to do!

But, I understand. Because this was my cry to the world for a couple of years. Years when I spent time, energy and money giving to others without any request for something in exchange. I even thought it would be just plain wrong to ask for something back….!

I wasted precious time allowing myself to believe that I had to prove my worth as a coach by finding solutions for others’ problems, giving time to those who wanted me to listen, helping people to believe in themselves when I was rapidly losing my own self-belief as a result.

The issue was simpler than that though. I was living my life, having left a City job that paid a 6-figure salary and made me unhappy, trying to prevent other people from living similarly inauthentic lives. I really wanted people to see that life did not have to be that way, and even more importantly it was never designed to be that way!

Fortunately, I eventually realised, through finally getting the right support in my life, that the first question I needed to answer was not,

“How can I help as many people as possible to feel good about themselves,” but

“How can I make myself into the best example of living a joyful authentic life?”

After all, we do know that offering advice is ineffective if we are not leading by example, shining example.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Gandhi

The truth is that money provides you with the freedom to give, to do, to be what you want, whenever you want it.

We DO have dreams for ourselves, how can we not if we have dreams for other people?

What is it you don’t want to admit, even to yourself? – That in secret you really do love a bit of luxury? That living an easy life where you are provided for in every way would just be so much better? That you don’t want to struggle to prove your worth any more?

What are your Money Stories? Are you struggling to believe you really deserve wealth? Do you think that money will make you a bad person? Has money shown up in your life and then been taken away? There are countless stories you have built up around money in your life – find them, love yourself for them and take your power back from them.

What would you do with your money? Philanthropy / social enterprise? What would be the most amazing thing to do/provide for the cause closest to your heart? Doesn’t that need oodles of cash?

Oprah Winfrey donated £32million in just ONE year. How amazing would you feel if you had the resources to do something like this?

AND here is the THING! If you become your most powerful, creative, productive, loving, bountiful self while wearing those Louboutin’s you have coveted OR while enjoying a beautiful meal in an expensive restaurant or or or, fill in the blanks – THAT is when you are at your BEST, and effortlessly able to do the good in the world you want to do.

There are some key, simple universal facts here:

• The universe in which we live is infinitely abundant. If you have more, it does not mean that somebody else has less.
• By believing you can’t have what you want, you make it so. Thoughts and beliefs and words – they all create your reality. No more “I can’t afford it…”
• Money is energy. Just like everything else in our world. Except, money represents more than just its physical form, it represents ebb & flow, movement, healthy exchange and, of course, abundance. Holding onto money, through fear of lack, causes a stagnation of energy, stopping the flow both ways.

Start creating today. State your intent.

“Money flows to me easily and effortlessly.”

Ask, believe, receive.

Love,

Victoria

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A Brief Guide

To score a goal, the best footballers:

• Know that practise makes perfect
  Look at what you have already tried, what worked and what didn’t – ensure you learn from past experience, never dismiss or regret it AND keep checking-in with your goal, each day imagine the effects of achieving it KEEP THE DREAM ALIVE!
  

• Keep trying if their first kick misses
  The key here is perseverance. If you are still emotionally-engaged with this goal, it is worth going through a few set-backs for and getting back on the road in the right direction!
  

• Have an amazing team around them
  Few goals are achievable without the help or input of not another single human being… Ask for and get help – don’t let your pride get in the way

• Have a support network outside of the team
  Similarly, your family/friends and others in your support network will provide the essential encouragement, good humour and emotional (or other, eg. financial) support to speed your journey to where you want to go

• Use anchoring (kit, football pitch, lucky charms, hair-cuts/beards! etc)
  Anyone familiar with NLP will have heard of the Spatial Anchor. This is the concept that having a certain item or being in a certain place can has the psychological effect of bringing you back to the feeling you need to capture to move forward towards your goal; eg. if you are a singer/actor/speaker and you got a standing ovation at one event, wearing blue – blue becomes your anchor for success
  

• Face the right direction
  We need to figure out which direction to head to reach our own goals – make sure you can ‘see’ your destination.
  

• Are well-trained in the skills/expertise it takes to aim and ‘hit’ the space between the posts
  As well as travelling in the right direction, we need to make sure we fine-tune the detail of our journey.
  

• Develop a success confidence (learn how to take on the mind-set of success by being with the right coaches/trainers)
  Get the best advice, guidance and support from the best people in your field – hire a coach or mentor to provide you with a feeling of assured success

• Can visualise a successful result
  More and more sports people are hiring coaches and other personal development experts to work on their mental approach. The following techniques have been proven to work in accelerating the journey to scoring OR achieving your goals:Visualisation – by mentally taking the exact steps and really ‘seeing’ the results in your mind, your brain is programmed to ‘live’ the success you are aiming forLaw of attraction – you get what you focus on. Focus on failure, and that is where you may be headed!Affirmations – repeated statements of success similarly programme your brain to move in the desired direction.

• Provide themselves with the best equipment/resources that they can
  What exactly do you NEED? What books/advice/equipment/experience/information? Get it ALL!
  

• Adjust their targets, to give a success-mentality in lead-up to ultimate goal
  For the longer-term goals, set journey goals to plot a path of successes leading up to the Ultimate Success

• Share their results… not just with those who rely on them scoring those goals
  TELL someone (or more than one!) what it is you are aiming to achieve. Make yourself accountable – it’s more difficult to give up if someone other than yourself is relying on you!
  

• Are those who get a massive emotional pay-off on scoring a goal (the ‘high of success’)
  The minute you lose the emotional-engagement with the achievement of a specific goal, you may as well forget it (or, at least, adjust it). The more the feeling of getting it thrills you, the more you can channel positive energy into it.
  

• Are constantly looking for a ‘way-in’ to score that perfect goal
  Make sure you are self-aware and conscious of the world around you. Will you spot that rare opportunity when it comes knocking at your door?
  

• Know that there is a huge pay-off at the end for a positive result
  Your goal does not have to be monetary or even involve financial gain. Making sure you know how you will reward yourself at the end of your successful journey provides a juicy added incentive to score the perfect goal….

Train like a Premier League Footballer and you WILL score your goals!

1)   You Get What You Focus On!

Thoughts create reality.

Your past thoughts are, at this very moment, creating your current reality. Yes, really!

For example, if someone annoyed you at work, and you continued to dwell upon it (your thoughts were of frustration and negativity towards the ‘annoying’ person perhaps) they will still be annoying you now – because this was what you were focusing on.

Alternatively, if you have been in a good-feeling place about an area of your life (a relationship or a project you are working on, for example) and you continued to pour positive, self-supportive thinking into this situation, the relationship or project will happily still be successful now.

The good thing is that this means of course that your current thoughts are creating your future! What are you thinking about right now…?!

Be careful with your thoughts. It is easy to start a negative spiral of thinking without being conscious of it. It is useful to start a habit of paying more active attention to what is going through your mind – so if you notice a thought that ill-serves you and what you want to create in your life, simply interrupt it, ask it to leave and throw in a fun thought to replace it. A positive thought will turn the flow of your experience towards positivity.

Warning: do not scold or blame yourself! Otherwise, you could set off another spiral of negativity.

After all, ‘It is only a thought, and thoughts can be changed’ Louise Hay.

We are pretty powerful, right?! Most of us dare not acknowledge or tap into this because there is an element of responsibility involved that we often deem easier to avoid.

Sustaining that good-feeling thinking requires practise, just like anything else new that we want to learn. The dedication it takes to change any habit (like smoking or eating badly) is what is needed here – and the motivation for such commitment comes from remaining aware of the fruitful rewards that lie ahead!

2)   The Power of Collective Thinking

Thoughts create energy.

This power that we all have individually is magnified when several people unify in thought. We all know by how we feel, that being with people who are thinking/feeling/behaving like we are, we consolidate that feeling, inviting more of it in, and in higher magnitude. Just imagine if the world united in a peaceful thought…

We seem to have bred a ‘misery seeks company’ philosophy – this serves us only in sustaining said misery!

So, seek out the champions of positivity! Spend time with those who echo your best-feeling thoughts! Inspire and be inspired and the momentum of energy will buoy us all to create what we want for ourselves.

3)   Balance…

Manifesting can be a tricky business when you start learning! We tend towards nervousness and clenching around the outcomes we wish to create. When you want something so desperately that you start to fear NOT getting it, this is when you become over-attached to the outcome and your ability to manifest starts to waiver.

You see, the universe is listening to us ever so carefully and ever so literally… When you start to let fear in, and your focus becomes infected by that which you do NOT want, this is exactly what you get (‘You get what you focus on’)

Look at it like this. A desired outcome (a goal or an intention) is like a butterfly you hold in your hand – cup your hands together too loosely and the butterfly will find a way to escape, too tightly and you will crush it…

4)   The Law of Attraction

This really is an extension of point 1) You Get What You Focus On!

This Law states (according to Hicks) “That which is like unto itself is drawn”. The beauty of this concept is that it applies to everything – it is universal!

To activate the Law of Attraction, you must know what you want (what you want, not what someone else wants for you OR what you think you should want – this is vital). To set a truly powerful intention, you must visualise your desired outcome. To visualise, you use your thoughts, but also your feelings and even your physiology (moving through the actions of attaining your dream, even smiling).

This visualisation can take place in the mind (closing your eyes and letting go so that you can see and feel what is taking place) or ‘on paper’ (you can create a Vision Board that represents your heart’s desires). This is not a one-off activity – you must ‘live in’ those moments as often as you can, immerse yourself in the images you are creating in front of you (literally or ‘virtually’) until your mind accepts the absolute true reality of this vision.

You can intensify the speed and effect of manifesting through visualisation too. You can go to the places you want to live/spend time in; be with the people who are involved in the future you are creating; journal your dreams; or even write a script of your future life with you as the leading protagonist. Live your desires in whatever way you can and as powerfully as you can!

5)   The ‘Feeling’ Intention

How do you know that what you want IS what you really want? You will know, by how you feel about it.

Pay attention to your body. If you are doing something (or imagining doing something) and there is physical discomfort, you are out of alignment with your true wishes. Sometimes, this will come as a surprise. You might have presumed that you wanted a certain something for a long time. The best way to gauge the truth about this desire is to feel it. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. Change it, until it feels right.

Focusing on a positive feeling is also a way to build up to a definite intention. For example, if you are unsure about your exact desires, there is no need to delay setting out on the manifestation path. Make a start by choosing how you would like to feel – you can even design an affirmation around this to accelerate your journey. One such affirmation could be “I always feel inspired to do what makes me and others around me happy”.

Experiment with your own Feeling Intentions and watch what you create!

6)   LOVE

Everything that we create, ‘good’ and ‘bad’, positive and negative, falls into one of 2 categories – LOVE and FEAR.

If you intend fully with only love, you can eliminate any fearful thoughts that obstruct the manifestation of what you really want. Avoid creating, through fearing it, the opposite of what you want.

Love and Fear being opposite sides of the same coin is a useful and simple truth to remember during your creative experience – one cannot survive alongside the other.

Love yourself, love others, and love the limitless creative process!

With love,

Victoria

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How often do your negative emotions come up because of the behaviour of someone else towards you?

WHAT IF your negative emotions were not the fault of someone else’s behaviour?

WHAT IF you had access to complete control over these feelings that obstruct your own well-being?

WHAT IF, the truth is, you are actually ALLOWING this negative emotion into your life?

Let’s look at a nice, warm example, about LOVE, for a moment (so, a positive emotion)

When you send loving thoughts and intentions towards someone – your Father, your Daughter, your partner, even your dog or cat – WHO is actually feeling the love? Yes, your friend/pet/lover would get the benefit of a hug/cuddle/kiss etc but the chemical reaction of ‘love’ comes from you, and is IN you… YOU receive the benefit of your own positive emotions.

So, let’s move this example to a negative emotion (which is always fear-based, whether it be frustration, anger or depression).

Applying the same logic as we did above, you can easily see that the benefactor of your negative, fear-based emotion is YOU yourself. ..  

But, I hear you cry, HOW can I put a stop to this feeling of irritation when my daughter answers back, OR my boss ignores my good work:

2)      Never make assumptions – we place all sorts of filters around each experience, never really knowing why someone might be behaving the way he/she is

What holds you back from setting out to implement new ideas in your business?

If you care about your business, value yourself and your clients and are aware that the actions you take really MATTER, you do not need to get stuck in the paralysis that these emotions can create.

Your destination however is only part of the story .